This week, Twitter has seen a great number of people tweeting their 16 year-old self – #TweetYour16YearOldSelf – me included. I realized there were a great many things I would have liked to tell my 16 year-old self that do not fit in 140 characters, so I thought I would write a letter to myself, rather than leave it at that tweet.
Dear 16 year-old me,
I’m you, just 12 years older, and much wiser, or so I’d like to think. I know how you feel. Lonely. You have some good friends, yet you still feel like somehow you don’t fit in. You feel like you’ll always be alone in the world. But believe me, you have people who love you. And one day, you will see that and you’ll stop feeling lonely.
And you know that boy you like? The one you think is totally out of your league? Well, you’re going to ask him to Homecoming and he’ll say know. Because he’ll be going with a girl much more popular than you. And that’s OK. One day you’ll realize that even though this boy doesn’t like you, it still took guts to ask him. And even though he’s a superficial jerk, you’ll get over it. And you’ll like a new boy… or several.
This is not your last heartache believe me. There are many more to come. But one day, further into the future, you’ll meet someone wonderful. Someone who will love you for who you are. Who will always be there for you. And you will marry that person. And even though right now it feels like you’re ugly, and that no one will ever love you, that will get better.You’ll realize you’re a beautiful person. And the boy you’ll marry, he’ll help you realize that. Hang in there, he’ll be there soon.
In the meantime, enjoy yourself. You will graduate high school, leave home, move to a whole other country and you will live. You will have beautiful experiences. You’ll have happiness. And you will have heartbreak. All of that will make you a better, stronger version of you. One day you’ll see.
28 year-old me